Happiness Is Your Destiny: Claim It

The people who know me best know why I write about happiness, healing, and self-realization; but the rest of you might be wondering what motivates me to concern myself with anyone else’s happiness and well being.  Simply put, gratitude – my heart is filled with gratitude, and a grateful heart cannot help but “runneth over.”

Claiming my own destiny of happiness has been the most incredible experience I could have ever hoped for; and my hope is that (in some small way) my work might help other people claim their destinies, as well.

Photo by Betty Wolverton-George

What I want you to know is that you can be happy. 

You can know joy and find the peace that may have eluded you for so long.

And it does not matter what has happened in your life up until this point or what challenges you still face.  Happiness is your birthright; and all you need do is claim it.

These are bold statements, I know; but I know it from my own experience.  Without losing the message in the details of my biography, let me just say this:  I spent the first 13 years of my life in a war zone and the next 27 as a fugitive, running as much from myself as the horror of my childhood.

Having been born a dreamer, I had no problem seeing possibilities and it was believing in my dreams that often propelled me into what most would consider “success.”  Inside, however, I was unhappy; and I had been unhappy, stressed out, afraid, and confused for as long as I could remember.

The one dream I found it almost too hard to believe in was the dream that I could ever know peace . . . that I could ever be genuinely happy.

If you’ve visited this site before, you know that I had a life changing event a couple of years ago.  In short, I reached a precipice I had been climbing for years and a lifetime of chronic stress finally took its toll on my mind, body, and spirit.  Tremendous loss followed – in every area of my life.

In those days, it was hard to think – difficult to sort things out.  But I knew one thing for certain – whether I liked it or not, I was going to be starting over . . . in every aspect of my life.  Of course, it was heartbreaking in many ways; but, in others, it was incredibly liberating.  To live in human bondage, a slave to the fear and insecurity that was the foundation of most of my thinking, was no way to live at all.  And, if I had not been faced with the perfect storm of tragedies, I might never have found the courage to change.

Carl Gustav Jung once recognized that our futures are determined by our unconscious well in advance.  I would have to say that, in the final analysis, I agree with that statement.  My way of thinking . . . the life I was living, it was draining my lifeforce from the inside out.  And something deep within my unconscious knew that I needed to be saved from myself, one way or another.

The problem I had (and so many others seem to have) is that I did not know how to change myself or my life because I did not know what was driving my thought patterns (the truths I accepted about myself, others, and Life).  Packed within the depths of my unconscious was more darkness than I cared to see; and it was not until my unconscious erupted that the pain of the past and the fear of the future captured my full attention.  A lot was going to have to change, if the best parts of me were going to survive.

It may sound odd, but the number one priority for me during that time in my life was to be happy.  Of course, I wanted my body back; (during the time I spent among the homeless) I wanted a home again; I wanted to come out of survival mode; and I wanted the fog that swept across my mind like the morning haze on a fishing pier to go away.  But, more than anything, I just wanted to be happy.

What I came to realize was that happiness was my destiny all along.  It was just a destiny I could not bring myself to accept until all the other options were no longer tolerable.  It was an epiphany of life changing magnitude.

The power of mind, freedom of will, positive thinking, and self-compassion . . . these were all concepts I had studied, heard about, and wanted to embrace; but it was not until I took hold of them and applied every ounce of determination I had in me to practicing these principles that I was able to change.  And changed I have.

Photo by Cristiano Galbiati

Although there is more healing that needs to occur, more struggles to face, and more bricks to place in the foundation of my new life, I’ve come a long way baby!  I wake up every single morning with joy, excitement, and gratitude in my heart.  I live alone and spend much of my time alone; and it is okay because I love myself now and have found that I’m pretty good company.

I carry smiles in my pocket and hand them out every chance I get.  I can’t wait to see what the future brings; but being fully present in this moment is wonderful too.  I don’t have two pennies to rub together right now; but I often feel as though I live an enchanted life.

I am happy . . . authentically, genuinely, absolutely happy.  And it just keeps getting better every day.

All of this is available to you too.  It is your destiny to be happy, just as it was mine.  I hope so much that you will claim it; and keep claiming it over and over again with each new day.  What you will find is that happiness is contagious.  Your happiness will spread like wildfire to those around you, and the world you live in will be a better place.  What greater gift could you give yourself?  What better purpose could there be?

“Every morning, when we wake up, we have twenty-four brand-new hours to live. What a precious gift! We have the capacity to live in a way that these twenty-four hours will bring peace, joy, and happiness to ourselves and others.” 

Thich Nhat Hanh

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  1. Your journey, at least as I understand what you previously have posted, might be characterized as a long “night sea journey” or descensus ad infernos. At first, you struggled “heroically” to fight the journey or to end it as soon as possible. This is what most people do. Then, there came a point where you understood, or at least came to accept through intuition, that the journey had its own meaning. It allowed you to return to your primordial self—to incubate your soul while it prepared for rebirth. I believe you have gone through a significant process of individuation at the soul level, balancing the opposites, with your lower self crucified, like Jesus, or, perhaps, dismembered and then reconstituted like Osiris. The process was painful, truly a dark night of the soul, but you have emerged (or are emerging) to the life you deserve. Perhaps, what you call “claiming happiness” might include acceptance of the cthonic journey through the depths of the underworld and the gifts that journey has to offer.

    • Thank you for your insightful and thought provoking commentary. You’ve given me a lot to unpack and consider. The rebirth/transformation aspect of your observations strikes a chord with my personal understanding of what I’ve gone through (and continue to experience) from the standpoint of evolution of consciousness and connecting with my higher self.

  2. I totally understand the principles and the birthright. However, having had lot of health issues lately, my anxiety is getting the best of me. I try to practice positive thinking, but when the anxiety starts, it tends to snowball, especially when I don’t feel well. I tend to follow bloggers like you, with positive messages, and I try to spread it myself, which is always helpful. Thank you for sharing this. Hugs and blessings to you.

    • Lori, thank you for reading and for your support. I’ll be emailing you shortly with an idea. Have a fabulous day!

  3. Beautiful post – Love these words: “I carry smiles in my pocket and hand them out every chance I get.” I am happy and glad to be alive. Smiling looks good on the outside and feels good on the inside; and it feels good to pour smiling-sunshine on others. Thank you so much for visiting My Journal of Praise. I appreciate you. Be Blessed in all that you do.


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