How Love Grows

Valentines by Dez PainWould that I could be the peacemaker in your soul, that I might turn the discord and the rivalry of your elements into oneness and melody.  But how shall I, unless you yourselves be also the peacemakers, nay, the lovers of all your elements?

Kahill Gibran, The Prophet

So much has been written about Love that it would be hard for me to imagine that I could add new insights or ideas to the subject.  Let me, therefore, just remind you of a few things you already know but might have forgotten about Love.

To truly love others, not for the way they make us feel or what they provide us, but for the beautiful human Beings they are, we must first love ourselves.

True love grows from the inside out – filling first the caverns of our own hearts and then flowing outward to those around us.

When we have not yet learned how to truly love ourselves, to accept and embrace all our own elements, we are torn apart by inner turmoil and strife.  We lack the emotional capital to share in love with another because, deep within, we know we cannot afford to give to another what we do not have for ourselves.

To be kind to ourselves . . . to show ourselves compassion and respect . . . and to forgive ourselves for that which cannot now be undone is to lovingly tend the gardens of our minds and allow our souls to blossom.

We find ways to be kinder to ourselves, to engage in self-compassion, and to forgive ourselves when we take the time and effort to get to know ourselves.  Succumbing to the numbing effect of our ever-so-busy lives and getting lost in the details of striving and achieving can make it difficult to hear the quiet, still voice within.

It is the still voice within that whispers everything it is we need to know about who we are and what we want. We need only turn our attention inward long enough to hear it.


Still Moon by Dez Pain

In silence, we hear the echoes of what it is our spirits need most for peace and fulfillment.

In stillness, we see the road that will lead us to our destiny. But it is only through self-love that we find the courage and the strength to take it.  

If you have already discovered self-love, my Valentine’s Day wish for you is that you embrace it tightly.  If you are still in the process of learning to love yourself, my hope is that this month — when Love is in the air — you will take hold of some of it for yourself.

Consider spending a few hours or a few days really thinking about loving yourself.  Try your best to set aside any negative self-talk that might arise and listen . . . for just a little while . .  . to what your spirit has to say.

Find all the beauty and good you can in the one person you know is going to be with you every single minute of every day, for the rest of your life. And remember  . . .

You are worthy of Love.  You are a beautiful expression of divinity.  You are enough.  Discover why.

Love yourself first and loving others will come naturally.  All the love you share with others will be returned to you in like kind.

That is how love grows. 

© 02/05/2013

Photos by Dez Pain

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  1. What a wonderfully lovely post 🙂

  2. Thank you, Celestine! Have a wonderful day! 🙂 Love & Light, S

  3. Beautiful post Sloan! Thank you!

  4. Gratitude & Love to you, my wise and kind friend! 🙂

  5. Sloan,
    Really lovely. “In silence, we hear the echos of what it is our spirits need most for peace and fulfillment.” This line is so powerful. You should quote this on one of your messages you share on FB. It offers a space of learning about who we are, in our deeper sense of self. Thank you for your beautiful message about Love. Blessings to you, and may love continue to touch your life! Erin

  6. Thank you, Erin, for your kind comments! You are a Light of Love unto the world; and I am pleased you enjoyed the post. Have a beautifully blessed day! Sloan

  7. Funny you should post this now, because I was just thinking about self-love this morning. Thank you for this lovely post.

  8. Maybe Self-Love is in the air. Wonderful! Thanks for reading and commenting, Lori. Have a fantastic day! S

  9. This is such an eloquent and timely post for this month of hearts. And as Barbara De Angelis says, “If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.” We should also strive to love ourselves without guilt because all of our relationships depend upon our own personal strength and love from within

  10. Danniece, I absolutely agree. Thank you, so much, for reading and for your insightful comments! Have a beautifully blessed day! Love & Light, S

  11. Your words are heart felt, beautiful and timely. Thank you for sharing your loving journey with me. Also thank you for stopping by my blog and liking my post Affirmation, Gratitude and Observing! Gratitude Dance! :~)

    • Thank you, so much, for your kind comments. Your posts are warm and filled with the kind of positive attitude I believe is a cornerstone of healing, happiness, and self-realization. Keep letting your GLOW FLOW! Love & Light, S

  12. Beautiful post, lovely and full of love. Thank you! ~ Lily

  13. Professions for PEACE

     /  February 9, 2013

    This is incredible! I love every word, from the opening (perfect) quote from the Prophet to your loving conclusion and wise truth of ‘this is how love grows’. Thank you for sharing the beautiful love within your heart here with us all through your inspirational blog. This post is a work of art.
    Blessings and Love, Gina

  14. Gina, your kind and generous compliments mean a lot to me. Thank you, very much! Have a beautifully blessed day, my friend! Love & Light, S

  15. wonderfully and lovely post!Have nice day.


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