The Gold In The Rule

“When the time comes that nothing goes forth from you other than that which you would be glad to have return, then you will have reached your heaven.”

— Ernest Holmes

Most of us have known about “The Golden Rule” since we were children. And most of us agree that it is a very good rule — that we should do unto others as we would have them do unto us.  Often, we tell ourselves that is exactly how we conduct our affairs, and the “problem” is with what everyone else is doing.

But, is it? And why does it really matter?

If we want others to always treat us with kindness and courtesy, are we careful to always be kind and courteous ourselves? If we want others to love and cherish us, are we opening up our hearts and giving away our love freely?

If we want to hear words of encouragement and support, are we being encouraging and supportive to others? Do we speak to others gently, even in times of discord? Do we try to understand a different point of view, even when we do not agree with it? Do we offer to help, even when we are struggling ourselves? Do we listen, even when we need to be heard?

If not, maybe we need to try a little harder — not because it is the “right” thing to do but because it is what is best for each of us, if we want to be truly happy.

It is not a matter of being pious or righteous.  It is a matter of creating for others what we want to create for ourselves. And, let me tell you, there is no other way to be authentically happy.

All of the gifts of Life start with a single seed.  And what grows from the seed is a reflection of the seed itself. Bananas do not grow from apple seeds. What we allow to take root and grow inside us is what blossoms into our world and unfolds into our circumstances.

When we nurture the seeds of love, compassion, understanding, gratitude, kindness, and generosity in our own hearts, what blossoms into the world around us is the beauty of all that warmth and goodness.  When we understand that we must give it away to keep it, we begin making kinder and more loving choices when we are dealing with others. With time and consistency, we begin to notice others doing the same with us.  So it is that, when we practice The Golden Rule, we benefit; others around us benefit; and the whole of Everything benefits. We create a win/win/win situation for Every One.

Of course, none of us is perfect; and, regardless of how hard we try, there are going to be times when we miss the mark.  But practice makes better.  The more we try to practice The Golden Rule, the better we get at it.  We may slip. We may make mistakes. We may say or do things we regret.  There is always, however, a next time. And what we do the next time is what makes the difference for us All.

As John Donne recognized, “No man is an island unto himself.”

If we could each remember that we are all in this together; if we could each try more often to put ourselves in others’ shoes; if we could each focus on what is flowing out from us and try hard to let it be something good and beautiful; if we could each just try our best to Be The Change . . . .

Well, it would be a wonderful world for us all, wouldn’t it?  

© 03/05/2013

Photo by Jay Simmons


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  1. matthew de Lellis

     /  March 5, 2013

    Great post, Sloan! Thanks for the reminder. L&L, matthew

  2. Very inspirational. Thank you.

  3. ” There is however, a next time.” How exciting that we can know this, being aware that each of us is forever wrapped in the next moment is heart warming. Seeing the opportunity to do something in an entirely different way is a glimpse into everything. Thanks Sloan, for sharing

    • Thank you, Craig! I’m so glad you stopped by and left such a lovely comment. Have a beautifully blessed weekend! Sloan

  4. Since you quoted Ernest Holmes, I know that you understand that we create our own universe. The more we send love and give compassion, the more it returns unto us. We are, in essence, our own neighbor.

  5. Indeed. Have a beautifully blessed week, Sherry! Love & Light, S

  6. I’m a lengthy time watcher and I just thought I’d drop by and say hello there there for your really 1st time.

    • Glad you stopped by! Hope to see you again soon & have a Wonderful Week! Many Blessings, S

  7. gecooper

     /  May 7, 2013

    Reblogged this on Drop by Drop We Fill the Pot.


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