Choosing To “Just Do You”

Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.

Bruce Lee

One of my closest friends recently decided to give me a nickname.  He affectionately refers to me as, “Sparkle Bright.”  Well, I have certainly been called worse.  To be honest with you, I think I like the new nickname because that is exactly how I feel inside.  As a general proposition, I am so grateful to be alive and to know what Being Alive actually means that I simply cannot contain it.  If that makes me “Sparkle Bright,” then Sparkle Bright I Am.  I suppose it accurately depicts The Me I Choose To Be.

As those of you who have been with me a while know, I am not perky all the time; and I am certainly not naive. I am happy because I choose to be happy, not because I have never known sorrow or struggled with difficult experiences.  I have a positive outlook because I choose to see the good and beautiful aspects of Life, not because I am unaware of any of the “realities” of the world.  I love freely because I have found that doing so is quite liberating, not because I have never been hurt.

I am who and what I am because I don’t know how to Be anyone or anything else; and I stopped trying a long time ago.  Of course, that means I don’t get to be everyone’s favorite flavor of ice cream.  And there have been times when just being myself felt very lonely.  During those times, I wondered if trying a little harder to “fit in” might be a solution to more than one problem. But I realized that there have been many more times when just being me worked out quite nicely.  Experience has taught me that the kind of people I attract when I am just being myself are the kind of people I truly enjoy knowing.  They are funny, compassionate, strong, intelligent, and interesting.  They inspire me, just by being themselves; and it is a joy to have them in my life.

Orange Butterfly by Marja Flick-BuijsWhat a wonderful feeling it is to have a sense of Love & Belonging because the people who are in my life are exactly the kind of people I enjoy spending time with.  If I lived my life pretending to be someone other than who and what I am, I would be surrounded by people who were so completely different from me that we could never truly relate to one another.

My point, in sharing all of this with you, is to encourage you to choose to Be your most authentic self — whatever that might mean, today and every day.  That is where true happiness can always be found.

If you are already living this way, fantastic!  If not, why not give it a try?

Experiment with spending as little time as possible worrying about what other people might think; and Just Do You.  Open up to being and doing whatever it is that feels most comfortable to you.  If you are a very serious person, be serious.  If you’re bodacious on the inside, be bodacious on the outside.  If you’re an introvert, act like an introvert.  If you’re 65 years old and feel like you’re 30, act like a 30 year old.  If you like yoga, do yoga.  If you hate yoga, don’t do yoga.  

And, if you do not know what it would mean to Just Do You, spend a little time thinking about it . . . or, maybe, spend a lot of time thinking about it.

The years roll by pretty quickly; and, before we know it, we will be looking back on our lives and reflecting upon whose life, exactly, it was that we lived.  Now seems like as good a time as ever to start considering what those reflections might look like.

Live Free! Be Happy! And Just Do You!

© 03/12/2013

Photo by Marja Flick-Buijs

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14 Comments

  1. Great advice. I am at an age where I often look back. More often than not, I am glad at what I see. More important, I am glad of who I am today, just being me.

    BE ENCOURAGED! BE BLESSED!

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  2. And you are a Wonderful You, indeed, Francine! Have a great week! Love & Light, S

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  3. Great post Sloan! It made me think of the quote by Oscar Wilde, “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” Have a great day! Blessings, Cathie

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  4. Great post! Continue to sparkle bright!

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  5. Your blog post today has hit something on my mind lately. I’ve never known how to be anything but me. I’m an extravert and I wouldn’t even know hot to “fake it” it to fit in even if I had to. Yet, I have very few people in my life. I’ve tried many things to remedy this, which had nothing to do with “faking it.” Joined clubs, tried different churches, volunteered, etc. I’ve told myself it’s the place where I live, because I had a lot of people in my life before I moved (in my hometown). Those people are actually still in touch with me, but it’s not the same when you’re 1,200 miles away and only speaking through technology. I long to be a member of community where I don’t have to change myself, my beliefs, my faith. Some things in my life had made this an issue for me recently. Didn’t mean to go on, but this blog post brought it up and made me wonder. Thanks for the outlet. Keep shining Sparkle Bright!

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    • Lori, thank you for sharing a bit of you and your experience. Now that you are thinking about the issue, I wouldn’t be surprised if you receive a sudden influx of guidance as to how to get to the place you want most to Be. Please do let us know how it unfolds. Have an Amazing Day, my Lovely Friend! 🙂 S

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  6. Thank you for the wise, articulate reminder. Funny how something so seemingly obvious and simple should be so challenging for some of us. I also had to chuckle at the beginning of this lovely post as a mentor named me Sparkle Plenty :). Sparkle on….

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  7. debra

     /  March 17, 2013

    Sloan.. thanks so much for sharing this. I realy want to live like this. When we are young we are daughters granddaughters. Wives mothers .Grandmothers..on and on… Now I just want to be me but it seems for me I am not sure how to do this. I found this to be encouraging. Thanks again dear one.

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    • Thank you very much for reading and commenting! It might not always seem like it, but it sounds like this is a very exciting time in your life. I’d encourage you to start out discovering ALL the things you like and enjoy about Life & living. You’ll learn a lot about your most authentic self in the process. And you might surprise yourself with what you find. I am reminded of a phone call I had last year with a friend I’ve known for about 12 years. When I answered the phone, I was listening to Pandora radio. He could hear the music in the background, and he said, “I didn’t know you liked The Beetles.” I responded, “Neither did I.”
      Have fun with discovering all the wonderful stuff that makes up You, Debra! Love & Light, S

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  8. Nadine

     /  March 19, 2013

    I love this post because it resonates with something I’m passionate about – living an authentic life! As Dr. Seuss says, “Why fit in when you were born to stand out?” Thanks for the timely reminder. 🙂

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    • Thank you, Nadine! I love the quote you shared. Have a Very Happy Day! Love & Light, S

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