Tell Us Of Pain

TNew Moon at Dusko understand happiness, at least in a way that compels us to truly value it, we must understand pain.  Not one of us has escaped suffering, in one form or another.  We all have our stories, our sorrows, our crosses to bear.

I believe that suffering can be one of our greatest teachers.  It can teach us much about what we fear, what we treasure most in our hearts, and what is inside us that longs to be set free.  

Without some measure of suffering, we could not truly know compassion.  Without compassion, we could not know love.  Without love, we could not know peace, joy, and gratitude.

When we come to understand it and to listen to its teachings, pain can be a gift.  But it is not a gift we are intended to keep.  And it is not a gift we are intended to pass on to others.

Today, I would like to share with you one of my favorite passages from Kahill Gibran’s book, The Prophet.  I believe it explains pain in a way that is both moving and instructive.  I hope you find it as meaningful and illuminating as I have.

“And a woman spoke, saying Tell us of Pain.

And he said:

Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.  Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain.

And could you keep your heart in wonder at the daily miracles of your life, your pain would not seem less wondrous than your joy;

And you would accept the seasons of your heart, even as you have always accepted the seasons that pass over your fields.

And you would watch with serenity through the winters of your grief.

Much of your pain is self-chosen.

It is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self.  

Therefore trust the physician, and drink his remedy in silence and tranquility;

For his hand, though heavy and hard, is guided by the tender hand of the Unseen,

And the cup he brings, though it burn your lips, has been fashioned of the clay which the Potter has moistened with His own sacred tears.

— Kahill Gibran

© 04/19/2013

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  1. God said every one of us will experience some kind of pain in life. However, it’s always for our good (even when we can’t see it yet), and helps us become better people as a result : )

  2. This is beautiful, Sloan. It boggles my mind when people try to force our world into a utopia that does not exist. At least not on this side of the veil. This is a world of opposites. To know up we must know down. To know light to we must know dark. As you said, pain is not something we keep, or give to others. It is merely a short lesson. A difficult one, yes, but a lesson nonetheless.
    I enjoyed this, thank you.

  3. Glad you enjoyed it, Lori; and thank you for your insightful comments. In the final analysis, it is ALL about balance. In order to share our light with the world, we must each come to terms with the darkness. Balance, always balance. Have a beautifully blessed weekend! S

  4. So true Sloan, that pain definitely teaches us compassion, and humility too! It certainly gets our attention, and hopefully something is learned from the uncomfortable feelings and experiences we face. The line in the passage that says, ‘much of your pain is self-chosen’ sounds similar to ‘doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results.’ It is wonderful when pain leads to healing those areas and patterns within that cause recurrent pain and grow from them. Thought provoking post!

  5. Thank you, Cathie, for sharing your wonderfully wise insights. Have an absolutely amazing weekend, my friend! Love & Light, S

  6. This is beautiful, Sloan

    • Thank you, so much, Stefan. And thank you for the reblog. You are a true blessing & a wonderful friend, Namaste, S

  7. Everything we experience is a lesson…even pain. I always stop and ask, “What can I learn here?” Once I did that during a painful episode and the word “surrender” floated across my inner eye. I spent a long time pondering that word. What happens when I just surrender to a situation? What happens when I resist? I learned a lot doing this. Your blog is beautiful and full of kindness and wisdom. Hugs pat

    • Thank you, Pat, for sharing your valuable insights and experience. You offer plenty of loving and kind wisdom on your blog; and I am honored to learn that you enjoyed what you found here. Many Blessings, Love & Light, S

  8. Sloan, I appreciate this topic very much! I’ve had some rough patches in life, but each tribulation was an opportunity to strengthen my character. I find that I cannot grow by being comfortable and the path to personal growth is paved by discomfort or pain. Have a great day 😄.

    • I’m so glad you enjoyed the post, Jason! Thank you for sharing your insights and experience. Hope to see you back soon. Many Blessings, S

  9. I like this post 🙂

    • Thank you, Celestine! I’m glad you enjoyed it. Have a wonderful day! Love & Light, Sloan


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