The Journey Is The Destination

PathWe have a better chance of seeing where we are when we stop trying to get somewhere else. We can enjoy every moment of movement, as long as where we are is as good as where we’d like to be. That’s not to say that you need to be satisfied forever with where you are today. But you need to honor what you’ve accomplished, rather than thinking of what’s left to be done.

– John Bingham

In late April, I said “Farewell, For Now.”  At the time, I believed I wouldn’t be returning to the blog until late summer. I looked at what I knew lay ahead of me, and it all seemed a bit overwhelming — the task of arriving at that place I wanted to be.

In addition to a spiritual growth spurt I was experiencing, there were many practical matters that needed to be addressed. A significant amount of change was occurring, and I needed to process it all. I needed to understand where I was at so that I could prepare for the next step on my journey.

While I believe, with all my heart, that my body will eventually heal completely and I will fully adapt to living in the world with my unique sensitivities, the fact remains that I still deal with significant limitations on a daily basis. For a woman like me, accepting limitations is never an easy endeavor. Perhaps, that is one of the many lessons I was meant to learn in this lifetime — to accept what IS, without judgment or disapproval, while still moving in the direction of where I want to be. It is an education I find myself receiving in many areas of my life; and, with time and continued experience, I am learning.

Still, there are times when I catch myself thinking that the answer is to push my way through my limitations. But then I remember that’s how I got myself into this pickle in the first place. Once I recall all that I’ve learned from the experiences of the last 3 years, I step back, breathe, and remember. I remember that everything I have already experienced, and what I am currently experiencing, is part of a process that cannot be pushed or forced. At times, there is nothing to do but be still. I needed to be still for a while.

That stillness was occurring within me, although much was changing in my life. It has been awe inspiring for me to watch it all unfold – all this change. Little by little, the life I have imagined has been unfolding into my experience; and there are times when I feel my heart might burst from the pure joy of the gratitude I feel. I am in a healthy, happy relationship with someone who was one of my closest friends for almost a year (the one who calls me “Sparkle Bright”). My relationships with my older friends have grown stronger, and I have met several new friends (some nearby and others in various parts of the world). My friends are truly the best people I know, and they continuously encourage me and offer me loving support. And they allow me to do the same for them. I recently began working with DVR, an agency that helps those with disabilities become self-sufficient again; and I am abundantly optimistic about the plan we have for my new career. In addition to all of that, I recently moved to the majestic and beautiful town of Taos. My new casita is spacious and beautiful, with an incredible view of the mountains.

It’s kind of like all my heart’s desires are manifesting into my experience, more and more each day.

No, it’s not kind of like that. It’s exactly like that.

Gold and Blue Flowers by Jay SimmonsIt is not the least bit of exaggeration to say that I wake up, almost every day, with the excitement of positive expectation. Basically, I can’t wait to see what Life has to bring me that day.

Sure, not everything is perfect. This is my first unfurnished place since everything happened, and that means there is a lot I need to acquire by way of household furnishings. Fortunately, what I have an unlimited supply of is faith; and I know this place will be beautifully and comfortably furnished and decorated before I know it. Also, there are a lot of challenging aspects to what I’ll be trying to do in regard to this new career. But, at this point, I’m somewhat of a seasoned professional when it comes to meeting challenges. So, I know it will all work out in amazing ways.

As of today, however, these goals (and more) still need to be accomplished. When I decided to take a break from the blog, I was thinking about how close I felt to meeting so many of my goals — to arriving at what I believed to be my destination. It seemed to me that, if I could focus 100% of my thought energy on what I still needed to accomplish, I could return to you at the end of the summer victorious. I could report all the wonderful things that had happened and share with you how fantastic the adventure was.

What I have realized, however, is that my journey has become my destination; and you, my dear readers, are as much a part of it as anyone else in my life. Of all the things I’ve shared with you, it seems somehow “wrong” to exclude you from what is transpiring now.

You and I . . . we are traveling together. By my estimation, that is the better part of what I have to offer you, as a writer. There are many “spiritual self-help” writers who spend their careers sharing the lessons they’ve learned in retrospect. It seems that, spiritually, emotionally, and psychologically, they’ve got it all figured out. Whether they put themselves there, or others do it for them, they are placed upon a pedestal — a place of high moral and spiritual ground, where the dark shades of their humanity seem to fade away.  As I am certain you have ascertained by now, that’s not me.

What I have to share with you is my humanity, my faith, my hopes, and the lessons I learn along the way – as I travel the path of personal and spiritual transformation, just like you.

As I said previously, I believe that (between my previous posts and the book) enough has been written about what lies behind me. What I want to share with you now is what is unfolding before me and my observations on Life and living, as seen through the lens of my current perspective. By doing so, I hope that you might bear witness to the truth of what I have been sharing all along.

If we deal with unresolved emotional pain, change our thought patterns, and cling tightly to our faith, we create those better tomorrows that might have previously seemed far beyond our reach. We change our lives by changing our minds. We free our spirits by surrendering to our heart’s desires.

We become all that we are capable of becoming by accepting who we are.

I’m glad to be back, and thank you for patiently waiting for me.

In love and light . . . .

© 06/07/2013

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  1. Reblogged this on Spiritual challenges .

    • Thank you, Stefan! You’re wonderful! Have an Amazing Weekend! Love & Light, S

  2. Excellently written

  3. Good to have you back! Jenny

  4. Okay, this is going to sound silly, but when my soul mate and closest confidante passed away (my dog), I wrote a eulogy for him. In that eulogy I say that he treated his journey like it was the destination. That eulogy is on his memorial website on my blogroll. I’ve been planning for weeks to post something about him on the anniversary of his death, which is this weekend. I don’t post on weekends, so it’s going to be posted on Monday. I learned from him about destination.
    It’s good to see you, and it warms my heart to read and feel the joy in your words. Welcome back.

    • Thank you, dear Lori. I’m sure your memorial post for your friend will be brilliant and tender. I look forward to reading it. Have a beautiful weekend, my friend. Many Blessings, Love & Light, S

  5. Yes! And don’t you ever hide out again! 🙂

  6. So happy to see you are back. I have been a bit slow at popping by but so happy to read your inspiring words. I love that you are sharing this journey with us all.. thank you.. Welcome Back..

  7. Thank you for sharing a part of your story. I believe this helps us understand each other better. Much love and many blessings to you my friend.

  8. Sloan, So well said!

    • Thank you, Kristin! Love the new photo and new look on your always informative and inspiring blog. Keep letting the Glow Flow, Beautiful Soul!

  9. Peace and joy to you….

  10. Welcome back! I look forward to being a small part of our journey by reading your inspiring posts.

    • Thank you, so much, Earth Angel! It’s good to be back. Have a beautifully blessed day! ❤

  11. Nadine

     /  June 14, 2013

    It’s so good to see you back in the blogosphere. I’m excited and happy for you. 🙂

  12. Good to see you back Sloan, and I like your new picture! 🙂

  13. Thank you, Cathie! Many Blessings, Love & Light, my friend! S

  14. So happy for you and your next life chapter. Your down-to-earth, honest demeanor is so very refreshing! ♡ Shauna

    • Thank you, Shauna! I feel a bit silly because I’ve been thinking of you as Doris. I believe I got it mixed up with something I saw on Twitter. In any event, I’m glad to hear from you and hope that ALL is wonderfully well in your life. Love & Light, Sloan

      • Don’t worry for a single second. My husband and I are both horrible with names. As air crew, there is nothing worse than passing a crew-mate in the terminal and they remember your name, your cats name, etc — and all the while you’re trying to spot their badge to avoid saying, “hey you.” We joke that in another ten years we’ll be wearing name tags at dinner! Ha!! 🙂 xo

  15. Doris

     /  June 17, 2013

    I am glad you are back, just notice something told me to come here, I too will travel with you, there are many changes in my life too, and I am glad that you want to share with us this journey thank you. Happy your back!

    • I’m very happy to “see” you and happy to be back. It is a beautiful thing to grow, change, learn and LIVE the lives we still could live. I look forward to sharing the journey with you. Many Blessings, Love & Light to you! S

  16. Professions for PEACE

     /  July 2, 2013

    Oh my! Beautiful, wise Sloan, this is an amazing sharing of your journey, and it truly resonates with me. I love this statement: “there are times when I feel my heart might burst from the pure joy of the gratitude I feel”. Wow! Wouldn’t that make a great t-shirt or poster that we see everyday?
    Sure our lives aren’t perfect, but we can choose to have a positive expectancy like you are doing. Let’s all choose to focus on our blessings and know that whatever we need is on its way. I’m delighted that you are happily blogging and I’m eager to catch up on all your posts but first I wanted to thank you for this wonderful one. I needed to see this: “If we deal with unresolved emotional pain, change our thought patterns, and cling tightly to our faith, we create those better tomorrows that might have previously seemed far beyond our reach.” Bless your heart!
    With loving gratitude, your friend Gina

  17. Thank you, Sweet Gina! I’m so glad you enjoyed the post; and I am always happy to hear from you. Many Blessings, Much Love, and White Light to you, Earth Angel! S

  18. Reblogged this on LoungeTalkRadio and commented:
    “We become all that we are capable of becoming by accepting who we are.” Sloan Rawlins

  19. May I share your blog in my latest article life ?

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