Who hates happy people?

Happy by Billy Frank AlexanderTo be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

I’ve made a habit of looking on the bright side of things. I don’t do it to please anyone else or because I’m oblivious to the darker side of Life’s experiences. I do it because it contributes to my happiness. And I’m quite certain I’ve earned the right to do what makes me happy.

Choosing to be happy is not, however, always a popular choice. When we try our best to remain optimistic, to practice positive thinking, and to anchor ourselves in gratitude, we’re not only making a choice about how we want to feel and how we want to live our lives; we’re also making a choice to share our happiness with the world. It is a gift not everyone cares to receive.

This is an amazing time of transition for many people (people who have awakened to the reality that old paradigms are no longer working). There are many who have set out on journeys of self-discovery, which necessarily leads to a new appreciation of happiness.

But, still, there are many people who cling tight to false concepts about happiness and who pass judgment on “happy people.” They argue that optimism is naivety. They believe positive thinking is shallow thinking. They find those who seem to be happy, most of the time, suspect. At times, they even get angry when they are exposed to someone with a gentle demeanor and pleasant disposition. Essentially, they hate happy people.

All this being the case, you may find that your ability to please everyone is going to significantly decrease as you become more firmly rooted in your own happiness.

Who hates happy people?

Based upon my experience and observation, I’d say it’s people who are very unhappy themselves. Within them is a mine field of sore spots – feelings, memories, and aspects of their own being that they have yet to face, feel, and heal. When we step on one of the mines in their mine field, it triggers unpleasant feelings for them (about themselves and about us). The explosive affect of the fear, insecurity, and resentment that emanates from their experience finds its way to us. The psychologists call it projection; and we all do it, from time to time.

Some of us have decided to use our time and energy to work on clearing the dangerous emotional mines within us. We’ve worked on solidifying our sense of self, in healthy ways; and we’ve taken hold of self-responsibility so that we might lay claim to our own happiness. But none of us is free from sore spots. Not one of us is perfect. We would do well to remember this when we are dealing with those who might find our happiness distasteful.

Today, I’d like to encourage you to do two things.

Make up your mind to be as happy as you want to be, and don’t concern yourself with what other people might think of it. Life is too long to be miserable and too short to let the opportunity for happiness pass you by.

If you find yourself being judged or criticized for doing what makes you happy, remember to have compassion for your accuser but not allow them to change the You that You want to be.

You have every right to be happy. Laugh as much as you want to. View optimism as a well spring of hope, and don’t let anyone take hope from you. Refuse to wallow in self-pity or self-condemnation because not everyone is willing to accept you for who and what you are.

Choose happiness, if happy is what you want to be. Those who disapprove of your happiness will soon pass out of your experience; and you will find yourself surrounded by those who respect and honor the choice you have made. They will honor it because they have chosen to be happy too.

Live Free! Be Happy!

© 06/25/2013

Photo by Billy Frank Alexander

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  1. Beacon of Aquarius

     /  June 25, 2013

    very good Sloan , thank you 🙂

    • Thank you Jim – for the comment and the reblog! Have a wonderful day! Love & Light, S

  2. Beacon of Aquarius

     /  June 25, 2013

    Reblogged this on Beacon of Aquarius and commented:
    Posted by Beacon of Aquarius June 25 2013

  3. gecooper

     /  June 25, 2013

    Reblogged this on Drop by Drop We Fill the Pot.

  4. Great post Sloan! It is a good reminder of all the benefits that come from using ‘our time and energy to work on clearing the dangerous emotional mines within us,’ so we can experience more joy and freedom as a result! 🙂

    • Indeed, Cathie! Always a joy to hear from you. Have a beautifully blessed day, my fabulous friend! S

  5. Michael

     /  June 25, 2013

    Thanks, enjoyed the post.

  6. Lovely post Sloan x x

  7. Love it, Sloan. Funny thing, I have two blogs scheduled to post on Friday & Monday about happiness. Blessings to you.

    • Thanks, Lori! I believe happiness is always a worthy topic. Many Blessings, Love & Light, S

  8. Another great post, Sloan.

  9. Professions for PEACE

     /  July 2, 2013

    Thank you for another delightfully inspiring post! As a ‘happy person’ this quote has always resonated with me and I hope you enjoy:
    “When someone tells me to ‘face reality’ I remember that beauty is as real as ugliness, love is as real as hate, and happiness is as real as sorrow.” ~ Kathleen Rowe
    Let’s hear it for optimism! Where would the world be without positive dreamers like us? We are so much stronger than we may appear to the nay-sayers ;).
    Thanks again Sloan. Your writing is wonderfully inspiring. Hugs, Gina xo

  10. Yay! Happy People!
    You’re such a delight, Gina! In a world that would consume those it perceives to be weak, we must surround ourselves with those who understand the amount of strength it takes to live with an open heart. Keep letting your Glow Flow, Beautiful Soul! S

  11. Out on a bike ride today, my husband shouted out a hearty hello to a passer-by, and he was completely re-buffed. I suggested to him that the other person just might not have friendliness on their grid. It is a shame when we run into that reaction. But, we can’t less their mood get on us. Pressing on to be happier, and trying to invite others to come along~!

    • Thanks for reading and commenting. Yes, unfortunately, those experiences do happen. But I imagine that you and your husband have touched the hearts of more people than you’ll ever realize by being friendly. This world can seem like a lonely place, sometimes. Often, one smile or a heart-felt “Howdy” can give another person that sense of connection we all need. Have a beautifully blessed day and keep letting your Glow Flow! Sloan

  12. Thank you, Lori! You’re wonderful! Love & Light, S

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