Inner Turmoil, Choice, and Change

Dez PainThe most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward.

– Amelia Earhart

Inner turmoil is truly unpleasant. Isn’t it?

When we’re dealing with inner turmoil, it is because we see more than one option. And we are torn between the options. Sometimes, part of us wants one thing and another part of us wants another. At other times, we know exactly what we want, but we are afraid to make the changes necessary for our desire to become a reality. Perhaps, we find that the risk of letting go of what currently exists in hopes of obtaining what we truly want is simply too great.

Moving from one situation or circumstance into another always requires change; and change is by definition unsettling. But the source of our discontent and inner turmoil will remain exactly the same until we do something about it.

Where there is inner turmoil, there is a conflict within us that requires a choice. Once we make a choice and commit ourselves to the decision, change occurs naturally.

The problem, most often, is in getting to that point of choice. If we are in an unhealthy, unhappy relationship with someone we love, we might find it extremely difficult to let go of the unsatisfying and stressful relationship because we can’t imagine what it would be like to not have that person in our life. Perhaps, we grow accustomed to verbal abuse, disloyalty, or neglect. And we try to ignore the raging torment that is occurring within us because we fear the very change we so desperately need. We may hold on to hope that the relationship can improve, long after it has become clear that it will not. Despair and frustration arise within us, and they compete with either the memories of the way things were or dreams of how things could be.

If we have a job that is either overly stressful and draining or numbing in its monotony, we might be torn between our desire to have meaningful work and our fear of losing our financial stability. When we live in an environment that is uncomfortable to us, we might resist moving to a new place because of the uncertainties the change would bring. There are so many different experiences in Life that hold the potential for inner turmoil because we have so many choices. We might not always feel like we have a choice in the matter; but we do. It is the privilege that accompanies the responsibility of our free will.

When we choose one thing over another, something is always sacrificed. There is a sense of loss that can be extremely powerful. What we tend to forget, when we are weighing our options and trying to avoid the loss, is that inner turmoil comes with a price of its own. We cannot hold on to peace of mind or be authentically happy when we are being torn apart inside. We cannot look into a future that seems bright and promising, when we vacillate between those brief moments of comfort we find in the familiar and the frustrated longing for something much different.

So, how do we go about making such difficult choices? How do we overcome the fears that hold us back from creating something different from what now exists? How do we find the courage to let go of what no longer serves us?

We just do it.

We make a decision to act, and we begin taking one next right step after another. We decide we are strong enough, wise enough, and courageous enough to face the losses and do what is necessary for the change we truly desire. We focus on the condition, not the people. We choose to love ourselves enough to stop placing our fragile hearts upon the altar of self-sacrifice. We accept that we have talents and abilities that are trustworthy. We cling tight to our faith, in ourselves and in our higher powers. And we move in the direction of where we want most to BE.

That is how we live free. That is how we stay happy.

© 08/02/2013

Photo by Dez Pain

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13 Comments

  1. Its so simple yet so difficult.. I love the way you make it all make sense, its as if you are speaking directly to me. thank you Sloan. I always gain wisdom from your blog and you.

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    • As I’ve said before, Shauna, we are all students and teachers alike. We are ALL in this together. Love, Light, and Gratitude to you, my friend! S

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  2. Reblogged this on From Heart2Soul and commented:
    I simply had to reblog this post from Sloan Rawlins, Taming the Invisible Dragon. She has so much wisdom to share.. I hope you all enjoy it as much as I did.

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  3. Thank you for the inspiration, Sloan. Xo

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  4. Truly Inspired ! The way, you have described and provided an accurate solution to a hidden problem, almost all of us come across during our lifetime. You have the real wordpower. A good applause for you. People are going to love this.

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    • I’m glad you enjoyed it; and thank you for leaving a comment! Have a beautifully blessed evening! S

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  5. Reblogged this on Sastry's Blog and commented:
    A beautiful peice of work. Buddha says “A teacher appears when the student is ready” and i now understand that statement!

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    • Thank you for the reblog! I’m so glad you’ve found something here that resonates with you. Have a beautifully blessed day!

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  6. andrea

     /  August 19, 2013

    This is a funny gum Oracle.
    The saying is,
    What fun for you on Monday.
    The quote is:
    nothing ventured nothing can win
    Have a nice Woche.Herzlichst Andrea
    http://andreasch45.WordPress.com/2013/02/26/kaugummiorakel/

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