Discover Your Own “Enough”

mBnRX4GHe who knows that enough is enough will always have enough.

– Lao Tzu

Happiness does not need to be elusive. But we can make it that way, sometimes.

Happiness often eludes us when we fail to accurately define and remain focused upon what constitutes “enough” for us — not enough for any one else, enough for us.

Let me tell you something I’ve learned about enough. When we take other people’s opinions of enough into account, we can easily find ourselves constantly wanting more and constantly without enough. Why?

There is no amount of enough that is enough for everyone else.  

If we are attractive enough for some, there are others who will think we’re not thin enough or shapely enough or tall enough or short enough. If we are intelligent and educated enough for one group of people, there is another group somewhere who finds us pedestrian or uninformed. If we drive an older model Jeep, there are plenty of people with brand new BMW’s who would gladly tell us that our old Jeep is not enough. If we live in the country, there are city folk who will believe we’re not sophisticated enough. If we live in the city, there are country folk who will believe we’re not “down to earth” enough. And so on and so on and so on.

The more time and energy we spend thinking about how we can get our hands on enough enough to satisfy other people’s expectations, the more discontent and unhappy we grow with what we already have. From this sense of lack, thoughts of deprivation and insecurity grow; and, before we know it, we have developed a strong shortage mentality. In other words, we feel as though we will never have enough. That feeling is a truly unpleasant feeling.

So, how do we get enough enough to feel happy and satisfied with Life and living?

We begin by defining and embracing what is enough for us. We close our eyes to the world’s ideas of enough, and we search our hearts for what matters most to us and us alone. We build a vision of peace and contentment in our minds, and we hold on to that vision – regardless of whether our vision meets the approval of any one else. With our own vision of what constitutes enough in mind, we begin taking one next right step after another, until we find ourselves right in the middle of enough. And then we savor every moment of it and let the soothing warmth of gratitude sweep over us. As our gratitude grows, we find ourselves receiving more of what we’re grateful for. Before we know it, we have more than enough; and we feel more blessed than we could possibly explain. That feeling is a truly beautiful feeling.

To discover our own enough, we must see clearly with our own eyes. We must accept that we can keep growing and changing with the world, while remaining firmly rooted in our own values. We must look into the mirror of Life and search for the reflection that most accurately represents who we really are inside, not who others think we should be. And we must push aside the expectations that keep us drowning and gasping for breath so that we can finally have room to breathe.

We are each given but one life to live, and it is our own. No one else can live it for us. No one else can give it meaning for us. As such, other people’s ideas of enough are wholly irrelevant to what is enough for us. It is a simple truth that waits patiently for discovery.

Today, I want to encourage you to spend some time thinking about what “enough” is for you.

How much money is enough for you to feel safe and secure? How much is enough to buy the level of comfort that is enough for you? How much would require more of you than you’re willing to sacrifice? How much love is enough for you? How much food? How many laughs? How many tears? How much activity? How much stillness? How much predictability? How much adventure?

Consider what matters most to you, deep in your heart, and define your enough in accordance with the desires of your heart — nothing more, nothing less. Do this, and I believe you will find that your enough is not so far away. In fact, it might already be right in front of you.

Live Free. Be Happy. Discover your own enough.

© 09/11/2013

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  2. Great post, Sloan. I like the quotation!

  3. Yay, I think WordPress finally fixed my email notification problem and I’m so glad I got this post. Would you mind if I quote you on my blog some time, Miss Sloan? I will put the link to your blog along with the quote if I do so. Blessings to you.

    • Lori,
      I’m honored; and yes. I’m glad your issues with WordPress are resolved. Hope that ALL else is wonderfully well with you! Have a beautiful day! S

  4. Great post, Sloan. With love maxima

  5. Absolutely love it!! Thank you Sloan.

  6. I needed to read this today. Thank you Sloan. 🙂

  7. Beacon of Aquarius

     /  September 21, 2013

    Reblogged this on Beacon of Aquarius and commented:
    Thank you Sloan 🙂

    • Thanks for the reblog, Jim! BTW – your blog is looking great! Have a beautiful weekend! S

      • Beacon of Aquarius

         /  September 21, 2013

        hee hee 😀 you are welcome…thank you Sloan …have a wonderful weekend 🙂

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