Winter & Soul Tending

meT47ZmWinter, a lingering season, is a time to gather golden moments, embark upon a sentimental journey, and enjoy every idle hour.

– John Boswell

It snowed several inches in Taos last night. I woke up to a breathtaking, white blanket of landscape this morning. And I sighed a deep sigh.

Winter is officially here.

Winter, they say, is the season for soul tending. Nature is settling in for a peaceful sleep. We are bundling up and getting cozy by fires. The busy hum of Life and living is beginning to slow down a bit. The conditions are optimal for turning more of our attention inward, engaging in constructive reflection and meaningful introspection.

To me, soul tending is about recognizing and honoring our heart’s desires – finding out what it is that nourishes us, on a deeper level, and graciously allowing ourselves to be nourished.

For many, the winter season can be a difficult and even depressing time of year. I don’t have to speculate about where such feelings originate because I know. I’ve been there. When we find ourselves sinking into the quick sand of sorrow and despair, it is because we’ve allowed our thoughts to drift much too far from the present moment. We are either lamenting the past (something we know we cannot change), or we are dreading a future that seems bleak and unpromising (ignoring the fact that everything about the future is subject to change). Nothing good comes from either perspective.

Looking back on the cycles of our lives with an eye toward understanding is an important part of the journey of transformation. However, allowing ourselves to be bogged down in the muddy waters of regret or frustrated by a steady blur of “what ifs” accomplishes nothing good or positive. To the contrary, such thoughts prevent us from enjoying the happiness that is available to us today, and they inhibit us from creating the tomorrows we want most to experience. Somewhere inside us, we know as much. But it can be difficult to avoid letting negative thought patterns take hold of us, especially in the winter months.

One of the greatest tools we have for effectively navigating the journey of healing, happiness, and self-realization is self-awareness. When we are self-aware and mindful of where it is our thoughts are trying to take us, we can decide whether or not it’s a place we want to go. And here is the good news. Each and every one of us has a choice.

We can decide which thought patterns add something of value to our experience of Life; and we can change those thought patterns that continue to take more from us than they give. We each have a choice about which thoughts we will accept as true and which thoughts we will let dissolve or pass through us. Not one of us is a puppet on a string.

Today, I’d like to encourage you to make up your mind that this winter is going to be a beautiful season of healing and happiness for you. Decide that you will spend the next few months focusing more of your attention on what is good and wonderful about You, about the people you share your life with, and about Life . . . as a whole. Ask yourself whether you are ready to release and let go of the pain of the past. If the answer is yes, remind yourself repeatedly that you have the power within you to face, to feel, and to heal old wounds. You no longer have to live your life the way the pain tells you it needs to be lived.

Embrace the beauty and magnificence of all that you already are, and allow yourself to be the person you were meant to be. There is a process to transformation; and it is a continuous process. But, I can assure you, the first step is one you will never forget. Simply make the decision that you are ready to start seeing with new eyes and watch as an incredible new perspective unfolds.

This winter, set out to find the wonderland that is already resident in your heart. And walk there, for a while.

Live Free! Be Happy!

© 11/21/2013 All rights reserved.

Photo by Samuel Rosa

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  1. Well, I guess it helps that winter is my favorite season.

  2. I don’t know how I missed this post. Lovely picture! I also did not know you lived in Santa Fe. I lived there for 8 years and it was some of the most magical time in my life. I studied with the Native Americans, did my vision quest…and so much more there. That pic of Taos just threw me back into memories! I miss the snow, as I live in a climate now that has none. So just…thank you for the hop down memory lane. Hoping all is well with you and that you find Peace and Harmony at your table this Thanksgiving. Blessings!

  3. I have absolutely been sharing the snot out of this post 🙂 Couldn’t have written it better myself! Thank you!

    • Anikka, I’m so glad you enjoyed the post. And thank you very much for sharing it! Have a beautiful day! Gratitude & Warmth, Sloan

  4. Stumbled upon this post, and I’m glad I did. I really needed it. I often feel so lost during this time of year…for the reasons you mentioned. I will definitely try and bring myself back to the present, but it’s hard. The external messages of what I don’t have are truly loud. Grateful for your words, which quiet those messages and bring me back to myself. Sending you lots of love… 🙂

    • Michele, I’m glad you found something in the post that resonated with you. Have a beautiful day and sending lots of love right back to you! S

  5. LadyBlueRose's Thoughts Into Words

     /  December 15, 2013

    your title drew me in…
    a wonderful post, as I wandered this morning…
    as I tend my soul within Winter…
    I think the cycles start with rain, turn to snow then the icicles appear freezing each
    moment I kept through the year….and as the icicle will melt, I let go of each drop
    but keep the content inside the drop I need to, to begin a new cycle…..
    yes this is a wonderful thinking post…
    Thank you ….for sharing your thoughts
    Take care…You Matter…

  6. Thank you for this most beautiful message. Yes, winter is time for a little hibernation of the soul, time to reflect, and ruminate, and revel.


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